🪬❤️ Attention is love, and holding space is magic

Johnny Pecan Pie
Jan 1
3 min read

Updated: Jan 13

💖 My attention is my love.✨ My magic is holding space.

Hello, Lovers of Life!

Have you ever felt deeply seen, heard, and understood? That unmistakable warmth when someone gives you their full attention—it’s love in its most profound, human form. Over the years, I’ve come to see that holding space for someone, listening to them with presence, and receiving their stories is not just an act of kindness but a powerful expression of love itself.

Love as Attention and Holding Space

To give someone your attention is to love them. It’s a way of opening yourself to another person’s world, letting them unfold in your presence and writhin your own universe. For me, this is how I’ve learned to love and how I’ve felt most loved in return.

As a child, I loved my father by listening to him. I offered him my attention, my quiet receptivity, and that was my gift of love. In the same way, I feel loved when someone holds space for me—when they truly receive me without judgment, just as I am.

This mutual giving and receiving of attention is the heartbeat of love, a sacred exchange that transforms the mundane into something magical.

Intentional Attention

A more intentional way to express “not caring about something” is to frame it as choosing not to give it your love. Love, in this sense, is your attention and energy—the most profound gifts you can offer. To give something your love means directing your focus toward it, investing your care and presence. By withholding your love, you aren’t being indifferent—you are making a deliberate choice to reserve your attention for what truly matters or aligns with you in the moment. This conscious decision to give or hold love reflects the power and responsibility of directing your attention with intention.

The Open Hearted Magic of Holding Space

My ability to hold space, create comfort, and invite others to open up is part of my feminine energy—a strength that thrives on warmth, surrender, and nurturing connection. It’s expressed in the way I create inviting spaces: a shared meal, soft music, cozy surroundings, and the gentle intention to make others feel safe and seen.

This is my magic, a yin force that doesn’t seek to dominate but to embrace. It’s in the way I listen deeply and love wholeheartedly, not by controlling but by receiving others with openness.

Loving Myself Through Attention

I’ve realized that the way I hold space for others is also how I love myself. When I sit quietly, lost in thought, or daydream about the beauty I see in the world, I’m holding space for my own inspiration.

This practice of listening to myself, validating my own thoughts, and finding joy in my inner world is a form of self-love. It’s comforting and nurturing, like parenting my inner child.

And yet, I’ve noticed a fear that arises sometimes—a fear of being “not interesting,” of not being lovable if I don’t have something remarkable to share.

But here’s the truth: my worth isn’t tied to being interesting or entertaining. The love I give to myself by simply listening and being present is enough.

The Power of Shared Awe

Awe, I’ve found, is a kind of love too. It’s a moment when life feels so vast, beautiful, and mysterious that it takes our breath away. When we share these moments of awe with others, we weave a tapestry of connection—a shared reminder that life is full of magic.

This is why I created the idea of the “Wow Journal.” It’s a space to collect the moments that leave us inspired: a stunning sunset, a poignant conversation, or a quiet realization that shifts our perspective. By sharing these wows with one another, we create a collective fire of inspiration and meaning.

How You Can Join

Start your own Wow Journal today. Reflect on the moments that have sparked your wonder—the things that made you stop, breathe deeply, and say, “Wow.”

Share them here in this space, where lovers of life gather to celebrate the magic of being alive. Together, we’ll remind each other of the beauty that surrounds us and inspire each other to see life through fresh eyes.